WE-SPACE Open Space is an online videoconference call, currently held bi-weekly on the second and fourth Thursdays of each month. The technology is easy. Vihra Dincheva and Andrew co-host it.
People who are signed up on Andrew’s or Vihra’s site receive the invitation to the call. You can read below some considerations to help you decide if it’s right for you!
At first the call was called “Keep the Hosting Beat.” It was originally a support for the Art of Hosting community.
Sometimes we still call it that but more often we call it UNPLANNING – unplanning what happens in the next moment.
Once upon a time we planned it all. We followed Peter Block’s guidelines for building community. Over time, in talking before each call, we shared what seemed alive and interesting for us (Andrew and Vihra) and then we’d bring that into the call.
We were trusting that bringing what was alive and present for us might help that area to light up. Or it might help others share what was alive and present for them. Both of these happen, because of who shows up and what they bring.
The calls are free! A donation of $15 Euros is suggested for those who’d like to give something back. It’s not required but you can donate anytime on paypal here. We appreciate it very much when you do.
A closed, committed UNPLANNING group is in creation. UNPLANNING has a lot to do with social trust. In a closed, committed group, perhaps we can go even deeper. Let us know now if you’re interested in this.
Some thoughts on attending WE-SPACE Open Space / Keep the Hosting Beat / UNPLANNING
The call is open to anyone who “resonates with” the thoughts below. As you can see from the comments at the very bottom of the page, everyone has their own sense of what the group is. They’re all correct! I’d love it if you add your own.
Each person will have their own purpose for attending, their own experience and their own takeaways.
Each person tends to bring a hidden plan or strategy of their own into the space to make it safe for them. Usually it’s based on what’s succeeded in the past in helping us survive or succeed.
Your official hosts come in with a plan too. Andrew: I come into the group with a strong desire to be liked, seen as wise and compassionate. Secretly I want to support many people in getting past where they’re stuck; I put that forward and don’t show so much that I want to get past where I’m stuck. Although I know this, I still try and do it, quite often. I’m learning to see the humor in this.
Good things happen in the group “in spite of ourselves,” in the memorable phrase of an woman who used to attend.
It seems that the when any individual drops some of her own plans and just gets present to being there, it’s a huge gift to everyone, who really wants that for themselves. The more anyone does that, the more presence and transformation happens in the room.
We’ve hardly begun to tap what’s possible here. The limitation is likely the unconscious plans we bring in. Plans are how conditioning and scripts show up in the moment. Conditioning and plans and scripts are useful for us – till they aren’t. Then they’re hard to get rid of. Great things happen beyond our plans. It’s hard work to be a real human being, as opposed to a Pinocchio, pulled by the strings of our past.
Some plans and stories that people bring to the UNPLANNING group, without noticing
The story that negative experience or pain is more important and meaningful than positive experience.
We may favor negative experience because we are afraid of our own and want to appear OK with it. Quite often genuine heart-opening presence is more difficult to allow in. We resist open-hearted presence because we are so vulnerable in it. Whatever people show up with is enough and not better that anyone else’s.
The story that “I’m the only one.”
UNPLANNING is outside of our comfort zone. It puts us up against our basic script for how we are in the world, and invites us to go beyond it. The experience can feel as cold and lonely as an Arctic exploration. Since everyone else looks normal, we think we’re the only one.
The story that we must prove our worth so we can belong.
Andrew loves this quote from Bert Hellinger: “What is greatest in human beings is what makes them equal to everybody else. Everything else that deviates higher or lower from what is common to all human beings makes us less. If we know this, we can develop a deep respect for every human being.”
The call time is 1pm Eastern, 5pm UTC (in the UK) and 6pm CET (Berlin). Lab members receive the link to call in.
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How this particular group started!