Beyond social control is authenticity, but it takes a tribe to find it

Social control, political correctness, group think are all ways of describing the pressure to act or feel a certain “correct” way in order to be accepted and loved by the people that are important to us. Usually we think of these as negatives. But they’re  part of life. Handling them can be a genuine life-changer for us, putting us in the driver’s seat of our own life as never before. Here’s why that’s so. We […]

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Activism and “the other”

How do I make room for those who don’t see things the “enlightened” way I do?  American professor Jonathan Haidt focused this question the beautifully the other day comparing two groups we’ll all recognize – however we might feel about them. On the one hand are those for whom John Lennon’s Imagine is an anthem. We love the open borders with no countries or possessions, and no religion too. On the other are those for […]

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Belonging comes first

I wanted to share a few words about what I think is at the core of groups that help people grow. It’s that belonging (attachment and connection) come first  and if that’s taken care of, everything else – emergence, integration and more – can follow. But to  the  extent that it’s not there, growth and movement are compromised. Belonging is to humans as soil is to plants. We grow in the soil of the relationships […]

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Throw a Better Party

Dr. Rick Ingrasci said, “If you want to create a new culture, throw a better party.” And we seem to have many of the ingredients we need now, for that party. The question is, did you get your invitation? And what did you do with it? Difficult questions and answers because it’s not the party we’re used to. This party is different because of two crucial factors: what we know now about emergence – and […]

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A Collective Intelligence Cluster

The small group is the core evolutionary unit of growth-oriented people. Alone we’ve almost no chance of not being swept up in the craziness. The tides of politics, entertainment and mass emotion have hidden undercurrents we’re not evolutionarily equipped to notice in the moment. We fall for those undercurrents (primarily the need for tribal belonging) every time – until we don’t of course. We need another “culture” to notice, a micro-culture for “awakening.” I don’t […]

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The Movement of Movements

Ben Roberts over at Movement Weavers used this phrase today, the movement of movements. It felt like “of course,” as if I both knew it and didn’t. I looked it up quickly and see that it refers to the Social Justice Movement – at least that’s where Wikipedia roots it. But movement of movements aptly describes what many of us are interested in, which includes but is broader than SJ movements. The “movement of movements” […]

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Falling Awake?

We-space small groups are like a school room in which there’s no teacher and the students are learning to self-govern and see what what’s possible now. If the group is online and you’re looking at a series of little boxes with people in them (like the Hollywood Squares TV show), we first tend to look at the individual people in the squares. And that’s interesting in itself! Each person has a very long and detailed […]

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The Climate Conversation We’re Not Having

Is there a conversation around climate change and our survival – that we’re not having? That you’re not having? Could we invite that conversation and hold it live and online, face to face but perhaps around the globe? Bill Kauth and I were imagining a conversation around climate breakdown (as some are calling it) and the human future – the conversation  we’d really like to have. It’s not so much about carbon in the air […]

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You don’t have any problems

It’s pretty good news actually. You don’t have any problems. We have problems, for sure. We have plenty of problems. But you, you don’t have any and I mean that sincerely. Problems are in the field, not in you. They’re a description of elements in the common relational space we inhabit. They’re the elephant in the room and that elephant belongs to all of us. Problems aren’t attached to anybody. They’re expressed as symptoms through […]

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Is there a place for #wetoo?

As everyone knows who’d ever had a mother or a father – or a partner – the relationship between the sexes is anything but simple and one-sided. It’s complex, multi-faceted and goes to the heart of who we are. You wouldn’t know about that complexity though, from listening to the conversation around sex and gender that’s playing out in our public conversations today. There unipolar certitudes rule the day! We all have a deeply personal […]

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