Risking seeing – and being seen

I’ve been learning recently that I’m not always so good at receiving gifts of the heart. From others or from “the universe.” The common factor of course is me, the receiver. But how to learn  to receive better? Last year I published a book about evolutionary self-development.  It’s a good book and it points to a particular slice of our predicament in a unique and telling way. (I think you should all read it. :)) […]

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Beyond social control is authenticity, but it takes a tribe to find it

Social control, political correctness, group think are all ways of describing the pressure to act or feel a certain “correct” way in order to be accepted and loved by the people that are important to us. Usually we think of these as negatives. But they’re  part of life. Handling them can be a genuine life-changer for us, putting us in the driver’s seat of our own life as never before. Here’s why that’s so. We […]

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Belonging comes first

I wanted to share a few words about what I think is at the core of groups that help people grow. It’s that belonging (attachment and connection) come first  and if that’s taken care of, everything else – emergence, integration and more – can follow. But to  the  extent that it’s not there, growth and movement are compromised. Belonging is to humans as soil is to plants. We grow in the soil of the relationships […]

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