unknown river

A word from the unknown

Life coming out of the unknown, streaming out of the future like a river or a breeze that’s blowing on your face from far away. When I don’t know it feels like a field that has a path in it, but I don’t know where the path is. There is one that I will take but I won’t know where it is until I find my feet walking on it. Facing the many possible paths […]

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Start a Bohmian Dialogue Group

For the past four or five years I’ve been in a group that’s been practicing the Dialogue process, based on the work of David Bohm. It’s a remarkably stable and powerful “field” that the group, generates meeting after meeting, and a wonderful connection and friendship between members. Here’s a bit about it and what you need to start one where you are. Prominent nuclear physicist David Bohm who’s interest was “the unified field” spent much […]

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TMI OR TLI

What’s “Too Much Information” ?

Sitting in a sun-dappled parlour a while ago, some friends and I were talking about TMI and TLI. Too Much and Too Little information. We discovered that we definitely wanted to know more. Where do we look foolish sharing too much – and what does it matter if we do? We all have a private side. Patricia Sun said that we’d do well to decrease the gap between our public selves and private selves. And […]

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Two Stories of Women and Men – Part 3

I participated in a simple and instructive “Listening Circle” at the Systemic Constellations event in Croatia this week. Amid all the goings on with international presenters, most of which were wonderful, and meeting new people from all over, there was this simple space to hear each other. It wasn’t that different from the Listening Circles that I and many of you know, by whatever name they’re called. Places in which your experience and perspective are […]

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Two Stories of Women and Men – Part 2

In Part 1 I shared two stories of women and men that I’d heard in the previous week. In one story a group of men supported a group of women who were defending a sacred site in Ireland. They stood outside the circle of women, protecting it and this gift was deeply felt by the women. In the other a mixed group of men and women who were exploring inner feelings and new consciousness gradually […]

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two stories of women and men

Two Stories of Women and Men

Two stories of women and men I heard this week got me thinking . The first was told by an Irish friend in an online group conversation when the subject of women and men came up . . . The powers-that-be wanted to build a motorway through one of Ireland’s ancient sacred sites. A woman called on other women to come to the site to stop the work from happening. But not only did she […]

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Listening in to the Listening Circle!

What happens in the Listening Circle This listening circle might be the simplest of all forms for going deep with others. That doesn’t mean it’s easy! Perhaps a metaphor explains it best! It’s as if travelers from many different directions meet at the appointed hour. Perhaps one or two will show up, perhaps many more. Each of us brings a rich experience of being human and it’s our reflection on that personal experience we’re listening […]

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The Unsayable

How much intimacy and realness do we have and do we want to have in our online lives? In our real lives? I know for me I can hold back from telling all sometimes, partly because I don’t know what “all” would be exactly and I don’t know what would be appropriate to say. I confess to uncertainty at times about what can be said, about what needs to be said, what is useful to […]

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Worlds in Co-regulation

It’s not always cool to admit it but a lot of what we’re reaching for in our lives, women and men, is bodily safety. We want a safe enough place to fully be ourselves and do what we really want to do. But safety isn’t a lens our society looks through often. The word has been up for me recently, tied to another word that almost never comes up – yet is central to our […]

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