“What if it’s just for me?”

What if it’s just for me? What if higher consciousness is just for me and not a gift to the world? (Instead of me out there peddling it like a snake-oil salesman.) Just for me! Have I even thought about receiving it? What if the gift of Presence is just for me and all the anxiety about how to get it, or manifesto it, is just so much dandelion fluff drifting in the wind? What […]

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Climate Change changes everything – 1

If you knew me you’d know that I’m a person with a lifelong interest in personal development, how we serve the times and the best of ourselves. You’ll know I value a spiritual approach and especially value learning with others, small groups as a best place to grow in. We benefit amazingly from the collective intelligence that good groups tap into. I love that. Now I want to add more of the “showing up” part […]

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Coherent and incoherent collective action

When we come together for some common purpose we often arrive in different frames of minds, different ways of seeing reality. If we can’ come into alignment for out time together we’re much more effective in whatever we want to do. To understand the dynamic, think of these different ways of seeing as different imaginations, different ways of approaching reality and being together. Imagination 1 is ordinary waking consciousness though this can be more or […]

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On not knowing what to do

Well, there’s a nice image for you! Some of you might recognize it as two cards from the OH deck, a radically improvisational way of generating images. The deck has 88 “frames,” words, and 88 impressionistic images, many of them much less friendly than this one today is. It’s definitely not all sweetness and light. Using a device like this, or a poem, can be a writing prompt or deepener, as it was today for […]

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All our efforts are toward Presence

(This post is dedicated to my friend Christel Kraft who I’ve been enjoying walking this road with recently.) All efforts are toward Presence. All our efforts in therapy or self-help, or whatever are part  of a larger effort, our reaching for Presence. But what is Presence? It’s not a description so no words would be it. It’s more like the lived experience of right now, a now that we’re not escaping or wanting to escape, […]

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Your public voice and your unique voice

Recently I’ve had numerous conversations, in workshops or intentional places, with people responding to the question, “What are you experiencing now?” It’s a naked question, a brazen question, a rude question. Certainly an unfamiliar one when it’s really asked and there’s room to respond. Yet people can powerfully moved by having five minutes to respond to it – perhaps no one has ever asked them before. (Here’s the simple presencing practice I’ve been using for […]

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Everything comes clear in Presence

Everything comes clear in Presence. Yet Presence can’t be described or forced, proven or produced on demand. Everything you can say about the Tao, which isn’t much, can be said about Presence. (Holy Spirit, we can only make little songs about you, skipping-rope songs.) We hear the melody. We see it on the faces in all the different ways. Transparent Presence makes everything visible. The ancestors wait in Presence. The pain of the long past […]

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Being effective in this bewildering moment

Martin Buber wrote an amazing book in 1923 that has endured and perhaps will endure as a classic. It was called I-Thou. In vivid poetic language that is as fresh today as it was then, he spoke a timeless truth. (Here are excerpts that give the flavor of his writing.) Humans have two modes, I-Thou or I-It. I-Thou is relational and we speak to and from the whole of ourselves. I-It is transactional (my word) and […]

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How to get from breakfast to lunch without losing your mind

The world is well on its way to waking up. If it doesn’t blow itself up first, which it’s also well on its way to doing. It’s the best of times, the worst of times. But do we have to choose, good reader? Old Aristotle suggested no: “The mark of the truly educated is being able to entertain an idea without accepting it.” But how do we do that? I’m not talking about abstract notions […]

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Telling My Story

I’ve been avoiding telling my own story. For several days I was writing a blog post about how we needed more honest personal story, more sex and gender in our  conversations. Then I noticed I wasn’t telling my own. Telling is unfamiliar because I’ve been very close-mouthed about great chunks of my own story, forever.  Though much easier, it’s still difficult to talk about my early childhood and the pervasive experience of abandonment that persists […]

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