Beyond social control is authenticity, but it takes a tribe to find it

Social control, political correctness, group think are all ways of describing the pressure to act or feel a certain “correct” way in order to be accepted and loved by the people that are important to us. Usually we think of these as negatives. But they’re  part of life. Handling them can be a genuine life-changer for us, really putting us in the driver’s seat of your own life as never before.  Let me show how […]

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Activism and “the other”

How do I make room for those who don’t see things the “enlightened” way I do?  American professor Jonathan Haidt focused this question the beautifully the other day comparing two groups we’ll all recognize – however we might feel about them. On the one hand are those for whom John Lennon’s Imagine is an anthem. We love the open borders with no countries or possessions, and no religion too. On the other are those for […]

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Belonging comes first

I wanted to share a few words about what I think is at the core of groups that help people grow. It’s that belonging (attachment and connection) come first  and if that’s taken care of, everything else – emergence, integration and more – can follow. But to  the  extent that it’s not there, growth and movement are compromised. Belonging is to humans as soil is to plants. We grow in the soil of the relationships […]

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Throw a Better Party

Dr. Rick Ingrasci said, “If you want to create a new culture, throw a better party.” And we seem to have many of the ingredients we need now, for that party. The question is, did you get your invitation? And what did you do with it? Difficult questions and answers because it’s not the party we’re used to. This party is different because of two crucial factors: what we know now about emergence – and […]

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What I learned today – 1

Sometimes in waiting for the grand idea to share I forget to say some of what did happen today, small things, the work as it’s unfolding learning to be present to the time. As things go, they’re  connected with a theme, much of which today happens to  be around Visibility. Early in the morning, sitting with myself, I noticed that visibility is different from vulnerability. I often experience vulnerability as a fear of visibility. Visibility […]

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