I’ve come to respect and value this simple practice. It makes more sense to those with more meditation and personal work experience.
Presencing invites us to share our inner experience, whatever it is, right now in the moment., with another.
It sounds scary at first, like a very cold shower. Its counterintuitivity and unexpectedness is part of its many gifts.
Here’s a celebration of Presencing.
At its most basic, here’s how we do it:
Two people do three timed periods (5 minutes for example). 1. Person A asks person B, “what are you experiencing now?”and is then simply silently present 2. Reverse roles. 3. The two mutually discuss, “What are we experiencing now?” What has arisen in the shared space so far. The two can then go on to explore a subject that came up or simply divide the remaining time into two portions in which each person speaks to something they’re interested in and receives, if wanted, some generative reflection.
It’s akin to mindfulness or meditation but much aided by the second person connection and a practical, carrying forward aspect. As a long-term meditator, I attest to its beneficial effects. Presencing tends to be energizing and fun. Sometimes it’s scary because there’s a vulnerability in the moment. Because it’s an exploration of the moment, Presencing is always new.
It has a playful quality too. My “playful Presencing guidelines” carry a little of that flavor.
Presencing is a shared mindfulness and a very different experience from doing mindfulness on one’s own. It can show a new way of showing up in the world – beyond the isolating personal performance our conditioning invites us into. It has wide application and I do it often or daily with many different people. It has dramatically widened my world.
I learned it from my friend Aryae Katchen who learned it from Patricia Albere who learned it from A.H. Almaas, a contemporary Sufi teacher. I give thanks to all. I don’t know where it originated.
A committed (closed to new members) group starts October, 2019 focusing on being with climate change and the uncertain future. A number of people are in already. It'll use Presencing as a core, but not the only element. Let me know if you're interested and we can explore it.