I’ve come to respect and value this simple practice. It makes more sense to those with more meditation and personal work experience.
Presencing invites us to share our inner experience, whatever it is, right now in the moment, with another.
It can be a little scary at first, like a cold shower. Its counterintuitivity and unexpectedness is part of its many gifts.
Here’s a celebration of Presencing.
It helps to have an introduction from someone who’s done it but, at itsmost basic, here’s how we do it:
Two people do three timed periods (5 minutes for example). 1. Person A asks person B, “what are you experiencing now?”and is then simply silently present 2. Reverse roles. 3. The two mutually discuss what has arisen in the shared space so far. They can then go on to explore a subject that came up or simply divide the remaining time into two portions in which each person speaks to something they’re interested in and receives, if wanted, some generative reflection.
Presencing is akin to mindfulness or meditation but is aided by the friendly connection. Often there’s a mutual sense of being part of something that’s greater than us alone. This brings comfort and relaxation. Sometimes it’s scary because there’s a vulnerability in the moment. Because it’s an exploration of the moment, Presencing is always new.
It has a playful quality too. My “playful Presencing guidelines” carry a little of that flavor.
Presencing is a shared mindfulness and a very different experience from doing mindfulness on one’s own. It can show a new way of showing up in the world – beyond the isolating personal performance our conditioning invites us into. It has wide application and I do it often or daily with many different people. It has dramatically widened my world.
I learned it from my friend Aryae Katchen who learned it from Patricia Albere who learned it from A.H. Almaas, a contemporary Sufi teacher. I give thanks to all. I don’t know where it originated.